Mirror of the Mind: The Secret Toll of Digital Comparison on Self-esteem

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Saliha Atiq

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“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.”
― Steven Furtick

 Social media is widely used; popular social networking sites (SNSs) with millions of consumers worldwide include Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok.

SNSs enable users to create electronic profiles for themselves, share information about their lives and experiences, upload images, uphold connections, organize social activities, get to know individuals for the first time and note others’ lives, satisfy the need for belonging, and
communicate their opinions, inclinations, and feelings.

The amount in which a person believes in themselves, regardless of how beneficial and competent they think they are, is known as their self-esteem.

How people shape their unique self-views, or the meaning they attach to them, should influence the eventual impact of those particular self-views on self-esteem, even people’s self-views are likely the “building blocks” of self-esteem.

 

It is believed that you have a basic need to evaluate yourself against others, which fulfills numerous purposes, including affiliation requirementsassessing oneself, adopting choices while being motivated, and controlling feelings and overall health. Self-comparison is a single instance of upward social comparison with better people who possess virtues, as opposed to negative social comparison happens when you compare yourself to others who possess undesirable traits. The upward comparison might be helpful if it motivates you to more closely resemble your benchmarks for comparison. It frequently makes you feel inferior have worse self-assessments, and encounter detrimental effects.

However, even a downward comparison can occasionally lead you to feel depressed because it highlights potential problems and, more often than not, results in changes to affect their evaluation.

In upward social comparison, you always feel like there’s someone better than you, and when you compare yourself to other people, you naturally start to feel discouraged and hate yourself for having more flaws in yourself than there are.

These days, some people can push themselves to perform better by comparing themselves to better individuals or those who are in better circumstances than they are. This kind of thing isn’t trustworthy at all since, despite how high your self-esteem may be, you are unique.

I’ve long since come to realize that each person is unique and that people make decisions in response to their circumstances. Never follow someone else’s precise decision-making process, no matter how similar it may look to your own. Each person is unique, and they all develop personally in some way.

“You are the only you there is and ever will be. Do not deny the world its one and only chance to bask in your brilliance.”
― Jen Sincero

 

There is always going to be a person better or worse than us. Someone will appear younger. It will make someone richer. There will be a star in the spotlight. Someone is going to look far worse than us. It will seem like someone has everything we believe is lacking.

Comparisons engender enviousness, ego, hate, and envy. We could feel inferior to someone else if we think we are in a better situation than them. It is also true in reverse. We will become envious of others if we believe they are better than us since we will feel inadequate in comparison. To end the cycle of comparison, we have to embrace our strengths and flaws.

Social comparison put into people’s hearts that they look beautiful because of their features, fair complexion, and height. Every person is beautiful who has a compassionate soul and beauty.

 

Always be a first-rate version of yourself and not a second-rate version of someone else.”
― Judy Garland

Social comparison, then, has benefits and drawbacks. To find direction and get motivated, you should evaluate yourself against others. However, after you’ve made a decision, you should follow through on it. Whether you do it alone or with the assistance of mentors who can be anyone improving yourself is a terrific thingtexts, music, and conversations especially holy texts like the Quran Paak are the best resources for discovering who you are.

It is preferable to compete against yourself.

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